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Mothers Day 2008 aNd More
Hope
Hope is a word that every hurting heart
understands. Hope shines brighter than
the brightest star on the darkest night.
Faith is bigger than the highest mountain.
And God is greater than any obstacle in your path.
Anything can be accomplished by those who fully
put their hearts into it.
The time to start is now the place to start is here.
May hope cast its special light upon your path and God
bless everything you touch in the hours, days, and moments still
to come.
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A friend heard this, and sent
it on to me. I think it's absolutely incredible.
I hope you agree...
If before you were born, I
could have gone to Heaven and saw all the beautiful souls, I still would have chosen you.
If God had told me, "this
soul will one day need extra care and needs", I still would have chosen you...
If He had told me, "that one
day this soul may make my heart bleed", I still would have chosen you...
If He had told me, "this soul
would make me question the depth of my faith", I still would have chosen you...
If He had told me, "this soul
would make tears flow from my eyes that would overflow a river", I still would have chosen you...
If He had told me, "our time
spent together here on earth could be short", I still would have chosen you..
If He had told me, "this soul
may one day make me witness overbearing suffering", I still would have chosen you...
If He had told me, "all that
you know to be normal would drastically change", I still would have chosen you...
Of course, even though I would
have chosen you, I know it was God who chose me for you...
Thank you God for letting
me be his Mommy…
New Year's Resolutions For Bereaved Parents
I resolve...
That I will grieve as much, and for as long, as I
feel like grieving, and that I will not let others put a time table on my grief.
That I will grieve in whatever way I feel like grieving,
and I will ignore those who try to tell me what I should or should not be feeling and how I should or should not be behaving.
That I will cry whenever and wherever I feel like
crying, and that I will not hold back my tears just because someone else feels
I should be "brave" or "getting better" or "healing by now."
That I will talk about my child as often as I want
to, and that I will not let others turn me off just because they can't deal with their own feelings.
That I will not expect family and friends to know
how I feel, understanding that one who has not lost a child cannot possibly know how it feels.
That
I will not blame myself for my child's death, and that I will constantly remind myself that I did the best job of parenting I could possibly have done.But when
feelings of guilt areoverwhelming, I will remind myself that this is a normal part of the grief process and it, too, will
pass.
That I will not be afraid or ashamed to seek professional
help if I feel it is necessary.
That I will commune with my child at least once a
day in whatever way feels comfortable and natural to me, and that I won't feel
compelled to explain this communion to others or to justify or even discuss it with them.
That
I will try to eat, sleep, and exercise every day in order to give my body the strength it will need to help me cope with my
grief.
To know that I am not losing my mind, and I will
remind myself that loss of memory, feelings of disorientation, lack of energy, and a sense of vulnerability are all normal
parts of the grief process
To know that I will heal, even though it may take
a long time.To let myself heal and not to feel guilty about feeling better.
To remind
myself that the grief process is circuitous - that is, I will not make steady upward progress.
And when I find myself slipping back into the old moods of despair and depression, I will tell myself that 'slipping
backward" is also a normal part of the grief process and these moods, too, will pass.
To try to be happy about something for some part
of every day, knowing that at
first, I may have to force myself to think cheerful
thoughts, so eventually they
may become a habit
That I will reach out at times, and try to help someone
else, knowing that helping others will help me to get over my depression.
That even though my child is dead, I will opt for
life, knowing that is what my child would want me to do.
Nancy A. Mower
TCF - Honolulu, HI
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